The bereaved desired the loss of the love object by Sigmund Freud

The bereaved blames himself for the loss of love object, which means, to have desired this loss.

L’endeuillé s’en veut de la perte d’objet d’amour, c’est-à-dire de l’avoir désirée.

FREUD S., Deuil et mélancolie (1917), PBP, Paris, 2011, p. 60